The Ridiculously Comprehensive Guide to Things You Should Know About Divorce
Nowadays, divorce is becoming more and more acceptable, and we are all for it, but there are certain things you need to be aware of about divorce. Divorce is the sign that a marriage is coming to an end and is the stage of life where you’ll be seeing your lawyer more than your future ex-spouse, and this can be a really stressful and eventful time in your life. No matter if you are gay, straight, trans, cis, or non-binary, everyone can get married after the 2015 laws that allow marriage for all abut. This also means that there are more divorces now, and it is no longer just between heterosexual couples. So, without further ado, let’s get into the list of everything you need to know about divorces.
You and your partner are getting divorced, but your children aren’t
If you have any kids with your partner, you should sit them down and tell them that you and your partner are no longer happy with each other, which is the only reason you are getting a divorce. You should focus on the point that the divorce has nothing to do with them and that both you and your partner will always be together when they need you together. The divorce process can be a real hell hole, and in the heat of the moment, you might say something cruel to your partner but make sure that you never lash out on your kids because they aren’t to be blamed for any of this, and they didn’t ask to be in this predicament! According to studies, the more you fight with your partner in front of your children, the more damaging this has on your kids. So, both you and your partner should come to an agreement that you should stay on amicable terms (unless you are divorcing because of violence or other damaging circumstances) because your kids should be able to see that you can come together for them.
Every divorce is different.
When it comes to divorce, you shouldn’t be listening to other people’s horror stories because not every divorce follows the same process. This all depends on your relationship with your partner, which can be as amicable as you want. Listen, when it comes to divorces, everyone has a story and advice, and more often than not, these are more misleading than helpful because every divorce has a different set of different issues and circumstances. For concrete information on divorce, schedule a meeting with a lawyer or a divorce lawyer, to be precise, and they will be better able to advise you in this journey.
Look at the bigger picture.
It can be very easy to focus on the little things and constantly focus on the past when it comes to divorce, but this is the journey to a new life, and you should focus on the future instead of obsessing in the past. Try meditating and forget the past, focus on the future, and approach the divorce as a way for you and your future ex-spouse to move on to a better future because both of you are no longer happy with this current arrangement. Don’t look at the past too much because this will hurt more and will make it harder for you to move on to newer and better things. Don’t sweat the small stuff and try to be the bigger person if you can and make the process as smooth as you can because if you have kids, you will want to leave on a good note to be able to lean on each other in the future if you decide to have equal custody rights.
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